Major and then befor dropping him off at the airport, I asked him if he had fun and liked cas I met him online and really liked him so wanted to know and he said of course he did and why else would he spend so much time with me and I said , maybe he is just a nice guy and he said no he can be a jerk and if he didnt like me hed not spend time with me. Its almost like a push and pull game with him. Well I am pregnant and so it makes it much more harder to just accept a disappearance! Sitting here crying now because dont understand what happened. Im not sure what to do or how to proceed. This will eat away at your self-esteem and will repel any new potential suitors that might come along. You disappeared out of nowhere and thats a behavior I dont tolerate generally. At first I thought it was just he was busy. Completely blank, not a single word. But I feel as if I am not capable, on many grounds, to make her happy! I almost feel like he wanted to do this to me for some sick reason. This goes on for a while until you take the unfortunate hint. We drunk kissed at staff do but straight away we both said to forget it. He kept smiling at me and so Well one daybi decided I was going to take my things and leave because I was unsure anymore about how he felt.he was spending more time with frienda, coming home drunk often, he changed the lock code on his phone, I just felt there was something more to the story. I have read many blogs about dating and most are about men and their feelings, how we are supposed understand their strong pursuit and we should be thrilled with the ghost act. I just get the line they think I deserve someone better, better looking, more money, more time, more brains. They tell me I am such an awesome catch but they cant give me what I deserve. But I have no expectations and they know this. I am a doctor, earn my own money, I am funny, smart, in good shape. I just think he was too coward to tell me face to face that he was actually lying to me. cant seem to find any interests in common, she doesnt ever ask me questions or seem remotely curious in the things i think about. Its been 3 months plus now, do you think time healed you? I ask why he vanished, he said he didnt. 1. Or I will leave my communication open and wait for his call or text? we finnaly only see each other 3 times in 10 months. I am starting to think he is getting in his feelings and needs some time to push them back. And he knows I need honesty. No wonder so many men cheat and leave most of you. Yes, Im serious. 15 He Only Texts Late At Night. Sometimes it means he has attachment issues and is commitment phobic . Reading this message will probably make him reply to you. .then back after 2 days I asked him whats wrong? This time has been hell for me and I miss him every day. After when I read your story and everyone elses on here I decided to hit my guy up and tell him the truth saying hey I miss hanging out with you he never even replied back to me but yet hes been on Facebook since that text I sent him, it hurts but gives me closure to I guess everyone here deserves someone better including me cause the guys who tend to just run away and not confront are the most cowards lessons learn. Im in emotional limbo (something I would never do to anyone but an enemy) and I cannot function properly. No one, My boyfriend and I were together for three years, and then started having to do the long distance thing our freshman year of college. Its been 2 weeks now. i am currently suffering the vanishing act this guy has been pulling on me for a while now. The list is exhausting. Hes that tall and dark and charismatic and funny and sweet guy that everyone loved. I said it was ok. We moved onto another place to drink. I havent seen him or spoke to him in a month now but it help me put closure to the whole thing. should I just ask him out right if there is a problem? I trust my intuition. Rachel, although Im a lot older than you, I completely understand what you are going through. We ended up blocking each other every where Facebook, whats app, phone calls. If he never texts back then that silent treatment is your slap in the face to move the hell on. However, a month ago today he stopped talking to me. 2. He walked me home and we hugged on my doorstep. Day Three: You know that if you contact him again you will appear desperate, so you wait another day before attempting to contact him again. 10. Yada yada. When he disappears from your life without a sign, you can easily text him with what you expect from him. I cant think its as simple as hes just not that into you That fits the barely dating folks, not deep abiding declarative love relationships that the man started and grew with the woman So whats the answer for those of us in THAT situation??? I felt a connection and didnt portray myself in a relationshipI just wanted to take it each day as it comes. Dating should be for the intent to marry and settle down. Blows hot one minute, cold the next. Why did he string you along? As I once heard someone say your picker is broken. Theres nothing wrong with you. Sign up for ourfree newsletterand get a free chapterof our book,"He's NotThat Complicated". Heres whats wrong with the picture. I dont know If I should text him to meet and talk or just wait for him to initiate contact. He refused to delete his ex from his FB page. should I move on what should I do?? This only goes to show that this guy never deserved you in the first place. Which is what I thought I was doing. I have a pretty large circle and i dont know ANYWAY who would do something like that without some kind of serious instigation on the others part (ie you borrowed his car and wrecked it or something lol). removed me from his social network accounts and ignored my messages. i am still sad, but feeling much better. Then I got concerned. We seemed to have connected and laughed a lot. Lol. Couple weeks went by and I texted him are if hes ok and nothing so two weeks after that I trxted politely that whatever hes chosen I wish him well. As you can see Im not over him and maybe if I would of ended contact in the beginning things would be different but I very much would like to have a second chance of being with him. I know right? Me too, I said I wouldnt take him back, but somehow I get caught up with his charm and hilarious personality only for him to fade out. I feel like Im a likeable person. I have read all the comments here, and I laughed out loud for 10 minutes at yours.it brought so much joy to meLadies please take note of Jasmines approach we have to BOSS UP!!!!! But, where did I go wrong? So the worst part is that now Im torturing myself not only thinking that he had this planned long time ago and just wast waiting for the day of stabbing me in the back like this, he either knew that I been living with my family and didnt get settled with a lease here in the USA because I had the hopes of seeing him again and he knew this same week my family treated me like crap, and I couldnt wait to get out of here and see him again and all those plans of this past week. Someone with a good heart but ability to understand and tolerate differences and has some street knowledge. I dont buy that they dont want to be distracted let them actually tell you that. This has literally been a nightmare. Please let me know what has happened. We lived long distance but we would tango and oovoo each other every now and then. Sunday rolls around I text to say hope he had fun yesterday and I was going to a little kid birthday for my niece. And yeah I am being a smart ass. Then recently he deleted his Facebook page which I think is so weird cause I never contact him on there since we both dont use it that much. Coming from this mindset makes it much less of a big deal if a vanisher then vanishes again. And spent a few hours there, ate, had fun and came back around 7 pm and he drove, paid for everything. I am moving on, I wont forgive him this time, but I still think and hope that he will contact me eventually and we will talk and explain things as normal, adult people should. Youd probably want to get it out of your hands ASAP, right?! I tried a few times, but there was no response. This is interesting You ghost as a test to see if we will reach out? What I want to know is I know I shouldnt have freaked out and assumed the worst. Six months in and off/on and breaking up a lot does not sound healthy/loving. I said I forgive you but why did you wait so long to tell me? We made plans for Saturday, at 6. I find disrespectful to ask smn and to dissapear . They disappear without even sending a text and they leave you waiting for them to come back. I have never judged him for anything, I just enjoyed being with him and I love him. i believe in this simple rule: if a man wants a woman, he would find a way how to be with her. I kept it cold again and said I have plans for Saturday. I am pretty sure he had been acting flakey because he wanted it to end. One day he told me that he likes me, I kinda expected it not because I want him to say it but I have this weird gut feeling that he indeed likes me more than a friend. If youre actively dating in todays day and age, chances are youve had the experience of a guy youve been talking to going radio silent only for him to pop back up and begin texting you a few weeks later. So So if a vanisher does reappear on the scene and start reaching out to you again, as I shared with you, approach him lovingly but directly about it. Most women would have given up but I continue to believe that one day, I will met this special guy just for me and so should you. What a f*cking shame!! We work together so we see each other often. This is why I always tell the women in my life to consider the men they date very, very seriously. He even told me that wherever this may lead he is 100% invested in it, and that he is going to prove it etc. With for a long time but turns out she was cheating on him and even before that he was with her on and off and then completely let go. Nor will I hang around with a man who is not reciprocating my attention and affection. our texts usually turned into sexting which Ive never done before. He wanted to meet me on a sunday morning but he was a no show. his answer was suddenly emotionless and official and he told me he will not be at home that time. I keep thinking about what happened. If he still doesnt answer then youve got to let it go. When a guy suddenly disappears from your life, you want to figure out what to text him when he disappears. I dont know what to do. Im just not attracted to that sort of thing. Narcissistic, coward, not yet a man. He said we would get together sometime that weekend; that didnt happen. During this month of his vacation, its just once that we talked via bbm and i was the one who started the conversation. Three years ago I met someone while I was abroad. He did disclose during the evening that he thought I was beautiful but that he had never thought of himself as particularly handsome (again.. insecurity? If he calls after pulling away, the same applies. I waited a week, hoping hed bring it up (he didnt). am really confused please help. I feel that some of this men have not just commitment issues but this behavior is not with dating with them it is with other issues in there life. Said he was staying with a friend in a town near me and again I suggested a catch up. I dont know if he wants me to leave him alone or what? He stopped answering my calls, I checked on his Facebook and he was actually having fun. I guess I got him when I pretend that I dont like him. And spent a few hours there, ate, had fun and came back around 7 pm and he drove, paid for everything. Could that really be all that it took? We hit it off and we end up hooking up before I left. The general belief that women react to rejection is exaggerated by the film industry, painting them as hysterical beings when someone doesnt want them. Dont you already have the information you need to get out of this relationship? I wouldnt say Im at all clingy or overly emotional. but then he started talking about spending weekend in an island. Do they really come back? This is going to sound cruel and I apologize in advance..youre needy and gullible and have poor personal boundaries. Ive just had this happen to me again (first time was my last relationship, over 10 years agoIve only sporadically dated since then). It could be that shes used to being around passive, shy guys who were good listeners. We talked and met each other for 3 weeks every day. I met him at work. He would do that again, and it would hurt more if you invested in the relationship. For me, it was what I wanted. I still dont know why it happened. He said he thought we needed to break up because he didnt care anymore. Well after I confronted him I never heard from him again, he has blocked me from all communication calls texts, emails except when the couples therapist called him to change the time of an appointment we had together he said he could make it but at at a different time? The only time i find i do this is when Im not in love with the man. And if he doesnt text after 10 days or so, its not him taking a break, its him leaving or being disrespectful to you and your presence. But the mystery to me is why he cant handle being in a committed relationship. By date 6, if there is one, if she hasnt somehow shown you how she appreciates your company and made you feel good about yourself, tell her youve lost interest because another woman has come into the picture who likes to hear you talk about yourself and things you like and she gets you and you click. 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